Thursday, March 29, 2012

When Dudes Call Women "Miserable"!


Kathy Bates - Misery

I'm sure I'm not the only one flying the coo-coo's nest when this happens.  Before I go any further, let me just say:
"I wonder why?"

Ladies, we've all heard it before, whether directed at us or at some other female we know to be a no-nonsense individual.

With the hurried and stressful pace of most of our lives; busy schedules, needy children (and spouses), household chores, traffic, work deadlines and countless other daily and much needed tasks to be done, WHO THE HELL WOULDN'T BE? This crazy world we live in considers this frenzied, frazzled woman as the norm. The ability to breeze through your days with relative ease and comfort, you're envied and considered "Wonder Woman"!

Men are usually the culprits who coin this phrase and don't seem to realize that most women work far more on average than they do. Many men complain of having to work physically demanding and strenuous jobs to provide financially for their families but never think about what we women do to contribute in every other way.  We already ARE "Wonder Women" in my opinion! How many men do you know can cook dinner for four, make sure the kids eat, complete homework, take a bath, get ready for bed, sort out tomorrow's wears and schedule, stitch a button back on a shirt, remember to call mom AND eat dinner AT THE SAME TIME? Not many right? This goes particularly for women with children because parenting does not come with weekends off and paid vacations.  It is filled with emotional, spiritual, psychological and physical demands that take more of you than can ever be understood by those who are childless. It takes all of you to raise a child.

That isn't the issue however. The problem comes when everyday tasks become overwhelming due to the giving of too much of ourselves to others and not saving enough time for US.  I think the term "miserable" really should be corrected. "Drained", "burnt out", "tired" or "exhausted" would be better accepted. Many men still feel as though it is and should be a woman's job to care for the domestic needs of the household. This puts tremendous stress and frustration on women and we then become the very word we resist so fervently...MISERABLE! We become miserable after yelling "S.O.S" and trying to say that we're tired only to have it fall on deaf ears. (Will a 5 year old hear "I'm tired Tommy" and come and lead you to your bed, take off your shoes for you and serve dinner?) Clearly, when we are in need of a break, we must take it. Remembering that we deserve "Me-Time" is of utmost importance. (Surely not neglecting the needs of our young.) When the man in our lives hear this, it signals "Let me get the HELL out of here!"

If you find yourself becoming like the picture on top, simply remember to:
  • Give yourself a much needed time-out. 
  • Stop comparing yourself to others. 
  • Stop trying to be perfect.  

A good approach is to start setting boundaries for yourself  and those around you. Do not opt to be a live-in slave but instead, try to live life as if it is your own. Find something that interests you or that you are passionate about so that you have to find time out of the day for it. Another good tip is to ask for what you need more. Ask and it shall be given. Seek and you shall find.  We'll find that many times we do not get the help we need simply because we are not asking for it. We toil and toil, sub-consciously expecting held from others or some sort of praise or recognition when others are too caught up in their daily stress to even notice. This is how misery lives! Secret expectations that are never met!

Never be afraid of giving yourself ample time to complete something. There's no gun to your head and this is by no means procrastination. It is simply practising patience and slowing the moments of life down enough for them to matter. Misery is often the result of worry and fear as well. Worry about what you did or didn't do yesterday and fear of what will take place tomorrow. These are two days of every week you NEED to take off - YESTERDAY and TOMORROW! We should only focus on the present and life will be much sweeter. 

Come to think of it now, it is far from feminism. Some men only see misery because they themselves are experts at creating it! They carry negative vibes wherever they go and when their obnoxious and pessimistic behaviour is not tolerated, then they try to tear us down to their level. In that case, I refuse to let misery live!

 Video on avoiding burnout. 

Justice For Trayvon Martin!

Justice For Trayvon!

For the past month , the public eye has been on the tragic and untimely death of 17-year old, Trayvon Martin.  As we all know, George Zimmerman - Trayvon's shooter, has not yet been arrested! I was watching bits and pieces of this story for the past two weeks or so on evening newscasts but hadn't really understood the full details of it until last week Thursday, when his parents and their attorney appeared on the "Anderson" show.

After watching the entire show - listening to the 911 calls, hearing an account of the young man's friend who was on the phone with him at that time, also hearing a witness' account of the event, I am completely appalled and disgusted by the fact that this man, a self-appointed Neighbourhood Watch "Captain", firstly, even has any right to pursue a suspect with a firearm, the right to shoot and kill that unarmed suspect (except for the bag of Skitttles he was carrying), and then NOT BE ARRESTED but rather, is taken in for brief questioning and his sent home to his family!!! This cannot be! 

 911 Call

Many people strongly believe that this man had racially profiled this young black boy for being...well...just that in a gated community. The number one question at this point is, "Why isn't this man in jail?" Had a black man been the shooter here, I am certain that he would have been fighting to prove his innocence FROM BEHIND BARS!!!   

I am in no way a prejudiced towards human beings.  I am and have always been a person who sees people as spirit creatures housing human shells.  I love everyone regardless of colour, creed, gender or political influence. Sadly though, everyone is not like me.  

Young Trayvon had ran under one of the units of this community to avoid the rain when apparently Mr. Zimmerman notices him and contacts the local police. On the tape, we hear Zimmerman being asked if he was following the youngster, to which he replied, "Yes." The dispatcher advises him not to do so but Zimmerman is relentless in his pursuit of this child. What's even more heartbreaking about the tape are the cries for help coming from Trayvon after being attacked, which were identified by his mother as her son's voice.

"Self-defence!" Zimmerman pleads but self defence against what? My next question has to be, "What are police investigating?" What is there left to investigate? Zimmerman did no background check, no forensic evidence was taken from him, there's nothing left but the spot on the street that this innocent black child was slain. 
Is there any other justification?

George Hall, a retired Presbyterian minister, said he was Zimmerman's neighbour for 20 years in Virginia until about 2001. Hall said Zimmerman and his brother attended church, and he wrote a recommendation for Zimmerman for a police academy in 2004.
"Their parents taught them to treat everybody with respect. I'm tired of hearing about this race thing. It could be an element in it ... but I never would have thought of him as being a racist," Hall said. "His father was in the Army and was a white American and his mother was Peruvian. That makes him 50 per cent Peruvian. A lot of stuff I hear, it irks me because people are drawing their own conclusions with very little evidence.  Pay attention to the area that's highlighted! 

Although George Zimmerman claimed to police that he was pummeled and had his nose broken by Trayvon Martin just before he pulled his gun and shot the teenager to death, a Sanford Police Department surveillance video shows no apparent signs that he had been in a fight of the kind he described.
An initial police report said that he was bleeding from the nose and the back of his head and that he received first aid from the Sanford Fire Department. He told police Trayvon knocked him down, and began bashing his head against the ground, and a witness account seemed to corroborate Zimmerman’s claim. His lawyer said his nose was broken in the scuffle.

(PHOTOS: Trayvon Martin’s Death Sparks National Outrage, Mourning)
The video, obtained by ABC News, shows the 28-year-old neighborhood watch volunteer handcuffed and being led by police into the station for questioning. But he shows no apparent signs of injury — no bruises, cuts or bleeding.  Prior to the release of the video, Zimmerman had told police he shot the teen in self-defense because he was being attacked. But police arriving at the scene of the shooting found Trayvon laying face-down on the ground. He died of a single gunshot wound to the chest. Funeral director Richard Kurtz, who handled Trayvon’s body, told CNN that he saw no signs of a fight when preparing him for burial. “I didn’t see any evidence he had been fighting anybody,” Kurtz said.
Read more: News).

Trayvon's parents took their quest for justice to Capitol Hill this week, attending a forum on racial profiling and hate crimes and drawing attention to their son’s killing that occurred more than a month ago. 

As a mother of a young son, my heartfelt condolences are extended to Sybrina Fulton and Tracy Martin - Trayvon's parents as well as to all his loved ones. Justice will prevail in the end. Stay strong! God never sleeps.

 To sign  a petition to investigate  and prosecute George Zimmerman for the shooting and killing of Trayvon Martin, click this link:

Spring Nails!

Funky nail looks that I absolutely ADORE!
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Tuesday, March 27, 2012

No She Just Didn't! "Clueless" Feeding!

I think the idea of grown-ups wiping dirt from a child's face with spit is pretty out there on the "Ick-Scale" but this just friggin' takes the cake Alicia Silverstone!

Do us all a favor and USE THE BLENDER ALREADY!!!
We all know that pre-mastication (the chewing of food in order to soften for feeding to one who is unable to) has been around from the beginning of time. However, in this day and age, it's taboo.  Here's what Wikipedia had to say   about its pros and cons:


  • Complementary to breastfeeding in the health practices of infants and young children, providing large amounts carbohydrate and protein nutrients not always available through breast milk[3] and micronutrients such as ironzinc, and vitamin b12 which are essential but present mainly in meat.[7]
  • Iron from animal sourced foods such as beef were likely premasticated during human evolution as hunter-gatherers. This animal derived iron source is shown to confer benefits to their young children (2 years onwards) in improving growth, motor, and cognitive functions.[8] Premastication was an important practice that prevented infant iron deficiency prior to modern times. [9]
  • Provides immediate and long-term immunological resistance to infections and inhibits immunological hypersensitivity such as asthma through the antimicrobial, anti-inflammatory, growth factors, and nutrient transporters in the mother's saliva[3] Premastication may itself promotes the development infant immune systems through antibody generators in the mother's saliva, which helps prevent the development of allergies in the infant.[6]
  • Premasticated foods allow for better infant digestion through the presence of saliva enzymes lacking in infants [3] Alpha-amylase from maternal saliva aid in digestion of starches fed to a baby. This may be important in the developed nations since "...milk supplements containing starch are used frequently and if these are introduced into feeds at an early stage, digestion of the starch will require the action of salivary amylase..."[10]


  • Premastication can transmit a wide range of diseases and pathogens from infected parents to their infants including HIV-AIDSfrom their saliva and open mouth ulcer, as well as possibly hepatitis B virus and Helicobacter pylori.[11] Given the prevalence of HIV in lower-income populations that extensively practice premastication, the action itself is likely an important method for transmission of the virus. [12]
  • Saliva can actively transmit various drugs and pharmacoactive substances."

Like...WHATEVER!  That is just soOOoo 500 yeard ago! I'm sticking to my guns on this one!

Sunday, March 18, 2012

Dairy Queen® Free Cone Day!!!

Dairy Queen Free Cone DaY is March 22nd, 2012.
We will give away FREE "kiddie" CONES to everyone....yes, everyone that visits our DQ® stores, all locations. No strings attached

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Internet Terms I Bet You Didn't Know!

13 Internet Terms You Probably Didn’t Know Existed

Do you consider yourself a connoisseur of online jargon? Sure, your Klout may be high, but the internetdictionary runs deep. Did you know there's even a term for all the e-mail you sign up to receive but probably never end up reading? Check out some lesser known terms and see how internet savvy you really are!

The term "graymail" may not ring a bell, but chances are you end up sifting through it daily. On average, about 80% of your inbox is made up of graymail, which consists of the daily deals, social coupons and newsletters you've signed up to receive but don't always want to read. Find out more about graymail here!
Aside from one of the greatest talents of our time, "meatloaf" is also a term for something you can find in your inbox. Unlike spam, meatloaf is unsolicited personal e-mail. Meaning, it's circulated by friends or co-workers. Meatloaf can be considered any type of e-mail consisting of jokes, anecdotes, and other trivia that will leave your inbox looking a bit chunky.
"Zen" mail Is the term to describe e-mail messages that arrive with no text in the message body. Sure, they may be peaceful, but they can also be really annoying.
You may think Urkel’s been gone since the ‘90s, but he’s actually been in your inbox this whole time. All of those fake virus warnings, urban legends and stock hoaxes that you can't stand sifting through. Yup, there's a word for them. Turklebaum.
Are Mom and Dad's constant updates about Aunt Tabatha's prize winning reborn baby doll collection geting a little creepy/annoying? There's a word for those, too. "Fram" is the term used to describe spam mail that is sent to you by your friends or family.
Think Wi-Fi is the end all be all? Think again. Introducing Li-Fi, the transmission of wireless data using LEDs. The new competition to traditional broadband is able to transfer data quicker by varying the intensity of light. And unlike traditional broadband, Li-Fi can also be used in hospitals where the use of radio waves are prohibited. In the future, you can bet Li-Fi will definitely give Wi-Fi a run for its money.
The term that is used for a visually noisy or over-designed web-site, usually with too many graphics and too much animation. Just take a look at The Million Dollar Homepage, a perfect example of cornea gumbo at its worst.
Out of all the acronyms that exist on the internet, POTATO might just be the most hilarious. "POTATO" is used to describe people over thirty who act like they are twenty-one online. You can often catch them abbreviating everything and using acronyms like "A/S/L" and "ROTFLMAO".
Hungry for information? Did you know that every time you consume snippets of info in a hurry, you're data snacking?
Think you're influential? Your social score may say differently. This score is comprised of a person's level of influence among their followers, friends, and postings on social networks such as Twitter and Facebook. You can check your social score with websites such as Klout and then boast to your friends about how your score is higher than theirs. Because what's cooler than a Klout score above 55?
We all know that since his run on The Hills and declaration of bankruptcy, reality star Spencer Pratt now spends his days surfing the web for just about any kind of self-fulfillment he can find. And of course, there's a term for that! Scouring the interweb looking for mentions of your own name is affectionately known as "egosurfing."
At one point in our internet existence, we’ve all been the victims of threadjacking. This internet phenomenon occurs when someone steers off the original topic in an email thread, especially on a mailing list, to a completely different (and usually irrelevant) topic.
An endearing term for the male developers of your favorite websites. Originating from the movie term "bromance," in which two or more guys have an endearing relationship. Just look at Jack Dorsey and Biz Stone, the two famous brogrammers that changed the social space with Twitter

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