Thursday, August 11, 2011

The Emotional Vampire - "I 'Van To Sak Your Blad!"

 


Ever encountered a person so negative, hopeless and pessimistic that you're counting the seconds to get away from them? If you answered "yes", then you have been attacked by an emotional vampire, and yes, they do exist!
These 'vampires' come in different categories. Mainly:
  • The Drama King/Queen - This type usually makes a huge deal of nothing at all and can cause sheer pandemonium in settings where others aren't aware of what is happening. Kind of like 'New York', Flava Flav's infamous groupie from The Flavor of Love Show a few years ago. This woman deserved an award for blowing things out of proportion!
  • The Victim - Woe is me! These are the ones who feel as though the whole world is out to get them. They believe others are plotting vicious schemes against them for some reason or another and can come up with the most elaborate stories of who has wronged them in the past.
  • The Narcissist - They think the Earth revolves around them. Everyone must stop in their tracks, throw down their coat for them to step on and let them in! Me, me me! What about me???
  • The Controller - These are dreaded the worst. They want to have absolute power over the situation at all times and find it difficult not to tell you what to do. They always think they have the answer and usually start out by saying, "You know what you should do...". They would love to dictate your words and actions, even your thoughts. IF YOU LET THEM!
  • The Talker - Oh my Gosh! Ever tried squeezing one word in edgewise but can't, despite all your efforts? Well, this type believe they know it all and want the rest of us to believe it too! They ramble on and on and when you do, somehow, gain a second or two to comment on something, you find that you are either cut off...or...re-routed to an entirely different topic!
This can be totally frustrating to anyone to the point where you just want to end the conversation altogether. In my 28 years on beautiful Earth, I have experienced the dreadful 'suck' of countless amounts of these beings. Sometimes on a daily basis. Oftentimes, you don't even realize you are a victim of such an 'attack' until after the encounter has ended. In order to better discern a mere monotonous conversation from a true 'Twilight' moment, here are a few clues that show that the life blood is being sucked from your veins:
  • You suddenly become physically drained and feel as though you want to lie down.
  • You're short of breath and anxious. Eagerly anticipating the end of this experience.
  • You've suddenly gotten ADHD and can't seem to focus on any one thing anymore.You're trying your hardest to preoccupy yourself with other things.
  • You crave a chocolate bar, pastry or even a cigarette to give you a mood boost.
I was watching a TV show a few days ago and lady gave an interesting remedy for this problem. Simply, in the case of:
The Narcissist - Do notice their good traits and don't take them too seriously. This will only lead to frustration because of their disregard for your feelings or concerns.
The Victim - Try not to get too deep in their self-pity. The complaints will be never-ending so if you're not a licensed therapist, don't try to keep up!
The Controller - These are the ones you have to 'wear loosely'. They will try to break your confidence so remain strong and assert your opinion. In many cases you just have to agree that you two disagree on many things.
The Drama King/Queen - Go about your activities as you normally do, avoiding the temptation to try and protect them from themselves. When they see that you're not being phased, they more than likely will calm it down a notch.
The Talker - Use distractions such as the television to tune them out or leave the room for air.
Remembering to set limitations and be in control of your own experiences will go a long way in dealing with these types of people. I find from my own experiences that being active is a great way of avoiding these types of people. Being sedentary and bored is the only way they have so much time to think of such mental manipulations. The saying goes, "Idle hands are the Devil's playthings". The same goes for idle minds! Surround yourself with folks who bring you joy and make your life feel more meaningful. Emotional vampires try to take away others' power in their own twisted ways. You must remain in control and never let your conscience trick you into feeling guilty for wanting to be happy. Life's too short!

Saturday, August 6, 2011

Lovely Stuff


If you're like me, that is...human, we all have things we absolutely love and have to take a second look at. Just a few of the things I love:


Bone Thugs & Harmony










Bone Thugs & Harmony, a group that I have known and loved since I was about 14 years old. A hip-hop/rap group, originally consisting of five members, Krayzie Bone, Layzie Bone, Bizzy Bone, Wish and Flesh. All from Cleveland, Ohio, they signed with Ruthless Records under the late Eazy-E of NWA in 1994. Their first official album being 'Creepin' on a Come Up'. Songs such as Thuggish Ruggish Bone and Foe da Love of $ featured on this album.
Their harmonious and individual styles mesh together so well and their hardcore "leatherface" lyrics that are so rhythmic seem to penetrate the soul for the ultimate music experience.  I believe that even people that dislike rap music would agree that this group is one set of talented guys! The way they flow through verses is mesmerizing and leaves you to wonder how they could possibly make a song about violence, Armageddon, warfare on one hand, then peace, love and the crossroads on the other, sound so beautiful!
They released their second album, East 1999 Eternal in 1995. This was the album that got me hooked! The Crossroads, my favourites, 1st of Tha Month, Land of Tha Heartless and Mo Murder all featured on this album, selling more than four million copies in the United States and more than ten million world-wide. The album was released for months after Eazy-E's death. Even music critics could not argue that their melodic style of rap was genius and earned positive reviews.
Over the years since, they have released numerous new albums both within the group and launched their own solo careers. They remain my favourite rap group to this day and I'm pretty sure that I know the lyrics of more than 50% of their songs. Shockingly, it has surfaced that Krayzie left the group last month. The others believe that it was because of a feud with Bizzy Bone but we all know that no matter what, they made lovely, harmonious music together for a very long time and saw many hardships to get where they all are today. Whatever path he chooses beyond this, I'm confident will be a success.



Dean's Blue Hole, Long Island, Bahamas


A few things I love:

My adorable children and all their antics.


My wonderful family. (Most of them anyway)!



A guy with good facial symmetry, speaks well, clean, well dressed and good shoes! (Blame Grandma for the shoes!)



Different languages.



Art, photography & interior design with unusual elements that are out of the norm.



My laptop and THE INTERNET!!!



Sugar!



Fashion, makeup & high heeled shoes.



Thick mascara.



My mole beneath my lip.



My angel and guardian angel.



Watching my plants grow.












Parsley, Basil, Thyme & Chives









Preparing a gourmet meal.



Having a gourmet meal.



Shopping.



An enriching conversation with someone.



A hearty joke that makes you snort and tears come out of your eyes.



Writing and reading.



Being paid positive attention to.



When someone doesn't judge you and accepts you for who you are.



Feeling appreciated.



Positive, uplifting people who can find the good in just about anything.



Socializing.



The truth.



Pens.



A nice cup of sweet coffee.



They got Bin Laden.



Picking my cuticles.



Rock music, especially guitars!



Feeling like I'm a new person after a good cry.



Waking up before everyone else to get that one hour of total peace, silence and to watch the sun rise.



Bone Thugs & Harmony.



Training Day and Little Man.



Piercings



That life itself is a continuous lesson and gives us second chances.



Alternative health and vitamins!











Being treated like a tourist downtown just for wearing shades& headphones! Also if reading a flyer! ; )



What The Heck Are They Feeding Us?



What the heck are we eating???


If you're anything like me, you're concerned with what you put into your body and are very finicky when it comes to certain foods. I think I'd eat just about anything once it says "organic" or has been deemed healthy by medical professionals. From time to time though, even these foods contain ingredients (whether intentional or naturally formed) that are toxic and disease-promoting. These are the stuff that  cause cancer, diabetes, heart disease and leading to tens of billions of dollars in unnecessary health care costs across America (and around the world).

If you want to stay healthy and out of the hospital, read ingredients labels and do your best to avoid all these ingredients:

Acrylamides- Toxic, cancer-causing chemicals formed in foods whencarbohydratesare exposed to high heat (baking, frying, grilling). They're present in everything from bread crusts to snack chips, and because they aren't intentional ingredients, acrylamides do NOT have to be listed on labels.

Aspartame- Chemical sweetener that causes neurological disorders, seizures, blurred vision and migraine headaches. (http://www.naturalnews.com/030918_a...)

Autolyzed Proteins- Highly processed form of protein containingfree glutamateand used to mimic the taste-enhancer chemical MSG.

BPA (Bisphenol-A)- A hormone mimicking chemical found in nearly all food packaging plastics. Active in justparts per billion, BPA promotes cancer, infertility and hormone disorders. It also "feminizes" males, promoting male breast growth and hormone disruption (http://www.naturalnews.com/032860_B...).

Casein- Milk proteins. Hilariously, this is widely used in "soy cheese" products that claim to be alternatives to cow's milk. Nearly all of them are made with cow's milk proteins.

Corn Syrup- Just another name for High Fructose Corn Syrup (see below). Frequently used ininfant formulaproducts (http://www.naturalnews.com/029863_S...).

Food Colors- FD&C Red #40, for example, is linked to behavioral disorders in children. Nearly all artificial food colors are derived from petroleum, and many are contaminated with aluminum.

Genetically Modified Ingredients- Not currently listed on the label because the GMO industry (Monsanto and DuPont) absolutely does not want people to know which foods contain GMOs. Nearly all conventionally grown corn, soy and cotton are GMOs. They're linked to severe infertility problems and may even cause the bacteria in your body to produce and release apesticidein your own gut. If you're not eating organic corn, you're definitely eating GMO corn. (http://www.naturalnews.com/026426_G...) Learn more atwww.ResponsibleTechnology.orgor watch myGMO music video(hilarious) atwww.NaturalNews.com/NoGMO

High Fructose Corn Syrup- A highly processed liquid sugar extracted with the chemical solvent glutaraldehyde and frequently contaminated with mercury (http://www.naturalnews.com/032948_h...). It's also linked to diabetes, obesity and mood disorders. Used in thousands of grocery items, including things you wouldn't suspect like pizza sauce and salad dressings.
Homogenized Milk- The fats in the milk are artificially modified to change them into smaller molecules that stay in suspensionin the milk liquid (so the milk fat doesn't separate) (http://www.naturalnews.com/022967_m...). While it makes milk look better on the shelf, it's also blamed for promoting heart disease and may contribute to milk allergies.Raw milkis healthier, which is why the government had outlawed it (http://www.naturalnews.com/029322_r...).

Hydrochloride- When you see anything hydrochloride, such as Pyridoxine Hydrochloride or Thiamin Hydrochloride, those are chemical forms of B vitamins that companies add to their products to be able to claim higher RDA values of vitamins. But these are synthetic, chemical forms of vitamins, not real vitamins from foods or plants. Nutritionally, they are near-useless and may actually be bad for you. Also watch out for niacinamide and cyanocobalamin (synthetic vitamin B-12). (http://www.naturalnews.com/032766_c...)

Hydrolyzed Vegetable Protein- A highly processed form of (usually) soy protein that's processed to bring out the free glutamate (MSG). Use as a taste enhancer.

Partially Hydrogenated Oils- Oils that are modified using a chemical catalyst to make them stable at room temperature. This creates trans fatty acids and greatly increases the risk of blocked arteries (http://www.naturalnews.com/027445_f...). It also promotes what I call "sludge blood," which is thick, viscous blood that's hard to pump. This is usually diagnosed by doctors as "high blood pressure" and (stupidly) treated with blood-thinning medications that are technically the same chemicals as rat poison(warfarin) (http://www.naturalnews.com/023149_d...).

Phosphoric Acid- The acid used in sodas to dissolve the carbon dioxide and add to the overall fizzy-ness of the soda. Phosphoric acid will eat steel nails. It's also used by stone masons to etch rocks. The military uses it to clean the rust off battleships. In absolutely destroys tooth enamel (http://www.naturalnews.com/021774.html). Search Google Images for "Mountain Dew Mouth" to see photos of teeth rotted out by phosphoric acid:http://www.google.com/search?q=moun...

Propylene Glycol- A liquid used in the automotive industry to winterize RVs. It's also used to make the fake blueberriesyou see in blueberry muffins, bagels and breads. (Combined with artificial colors and corn syrup.) See shocking "Fake Blueberries" video at:http://www.naturalnews.tv/v.asp?v=7...

Sodium (Salt)- The processed white salt lacking in trace minerals. In the holistic nutrition industry, we call it "death salt" because it promotes disease and death. Real salt, on the other hand, such as "dirty" sea salt or pink Himalayan salt, is loaded with the trace minerals that prevent disease, such as selenium (cancer), chromium (diabetes) and zinc (infectious disease). Much like with bread and sugar,white salt is terrible for your health. And don't be fooled by claims of "sea salt" in grocery stores. All salt came from the sea if you go far back enough in geologic time, so they can slap the "sea salt" claim on ANY salt!

Sodium Nitrite- A cancer-causing red coloring chemical added to bacon, hot dogs, sausage, beef jerky, ham, lunch meats, pepperoni and nearly all processed meats. Strongly linked to brain tumors, pancreatic cancers and colon cancers (http://www.naturalnews.com/007024.html). The USDA once tried to ban it from the food supply but was out-maneuvered by the meat industry, which now dominates USDA regulations. Sodium nitrite is a complete poison used to make meats look fresh. Countless children die of cancer each year from sodium nitrite-induced cancers
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Soy Protein- The No. 1 protein source used in "protein bars," including many bars widely consumed by bodybuilders. Soy protein is the "junk protein" of the food industry. It's made from genetically modified soybeans (often grown in China) and then subjected tohexane, a chemical solvent (http://www.naturalnews.com/026303_s...) that can literally explode.

Sucralose- An artificial chemical sweetener sold asSplenda. The sucralose molecule contains a chlorine atom (http://www.naturalnews.com/027491_a...). Researchers have repeatedly found that artificial sweeteners make people fat by actually promoting weight gain (http://www.naturalnews.com/024543_h...).

Sugar- The bleached, nutritionally-deficient byproduct of cane processing. During sugar cane processing, nearly all the minerals and vitamins end up in the blackstrap molasses that's usually fed to farm animals. (Blackstrap molasses is actually the "good" part of sugar cane juice.) Molasses is often fed to farm animals because every rancher knows that farm animals need good nutrition to stay alive. Amazingly, conventional doctors don't yet realize this about humans, and they continue to claim that eating sugar is perfectly fine for you. Sugar promotes diabetes, obesity, mood disorders and nutritional deficiencies.

Textured Vegetable Protein- Usually made of soy protein which is extracted from genetically modified soybeans and then processed usinghexane, an explosive chemical solvent (see Soy Protein, above). Widely used in vegetarian foods such as "veggie burgers" (most of which also contain MSG or Yeast Extract, by the way).

Yeast Extract- Hidden form of MSG that contains free glutamate and is used in many "natural" food products to claim "No MSG!" Yeast extract contains up to 14% free glutamate. You'll find it in thousands of grocery store products, from soups to snack chips. I even once spotted it used on fresh meat!

Label Tricks

Here's a trick food companies frequently used to pack more sugar into their products without making sugar look like the first ingredient:

Ingredient labels, you see, must list the most prominent ingredients first, and some consumers might freak out of they saw a box of cereal that said, "Sugar, whole grain wheat, corn" and so on. Instead, the company uses 3 or 4 different forms of sugar to distribute them farther down the label, like this:

"Whole grain wheat, sugar, corn syrup, corn syrup solids..."

This way, the first ingredients looks like "whole grain wheat" when, in reality, the cereal might beover fifty percent sugars!


Buy Real Food

• Shop are your local farmer's market, food co-op or CSA.

• Look for the USDA Organic label on foods. This is a legitimate claim to being certified organic. It's one of the few programs run by the USDA that actually has integrity.

• Read the ingredients labels! If you see names of chemicals you can't pronounce, don't buy it.

• Buy more unprocessed food ingredients and make your own meals rather than buying ready-to-eat, processed foods, which are almost universally formulated with disease-promoting ingredients.

 GROW some of your own food! The best food you can ever eat is food from your own garden

Learn more:http://www.naturalnews.com/033162_food_ingredients_chemicals.html#ixzz1Tye4LvFO

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